Silence in the face of injustice is complicity with the oppressor.’ #blacklivesmatter
Sex can be messy! If you or your partner(s) are on your period, blood might naturally make an appearance when you’re getting hot and heavy in the bedroom. Period blood can actually act as a natural lubricant during sex and orgasms are known to relieve menstrual cramps and help alleviate migraines. Period sex may not be for everyone but if you’re curious to try it or experiment while you or your partner(s) are on your period please know that it is completely normal and natural! It is important to know, however, when blood during sex is no big deal and when you should see a doctor or reach out for help.
We are all dealing with the distance between our friends, family, lovers, and partners differently. It can be challenging to focus on the future while living in lockdown, and it can be even harder to stay indoors as the summer fast approaches. Here are some tips for connecting through distance: Respect your own and your loved ones mental health, take advantage of communication through tech, be intentional with the time you share connecting, and get creative! How are you dealing with the distance?
Many of us are missing the days of touching the ones we love. Whether that be hugging a stranger, having a hot make out session with a friend, or getting intimate with a lover, lots of us are feeling the quarantine loneliness getting to us. But in this time of social distancing we need to remember everyone is dealing with their emotions and circumstances in quarantine differently and that is more than okay. We will make it through this together.
Ask and you shall receive.
Please remember you are not alone. Not today. Not ever. #worldsmentalhealthday
Do you feel that it was a good thing you were friends before you were lovers?
Evan: Hell yeah, it made us so comfortable.
Kenzie: Yeah, but even when we met, we were instantly comfortable.
E: That’s because you did a documentary photo project on me. *laughs*
K: Oh yeah, I had to do a project on someone I didn’t know, and I didn’t actually want to do it of Evan because I knew I had a crush on him. But I did, and then when I presented the photos to my class, everyone was commenting things like, “Wow, you can tell he has such a connection to you” and “You guys look like you have such intense chemistry,” it was so embarrassing.
Why?
K: Because I hadn’t even started flirting with him yet!
E: Oh, you hadn’t started flirting with me yet? That is such a lie. *laughs*
K: Okay, okay, well, it wasn’t a thought I had fully entertained.
Do you feel you are in touch with your sexuality, individually or together?
K: I thought I was asexual in high school while in my prior relationship because I didn’t actively want sex, but now *laughs* I’m definitely interested in sex. Evan and I just get along so well, and we openly communicate.
E: Yeah, the first time we hooked up, I had like a questionnaire mentally. I asked for consent obviously, but I also asked questions just to gauge her interest in things.
K: He still asks, which is so nice because I think when you're with someone for a long time, you can get into the habit of assuming they may like or want things.
E: Yeah, and we’re also pretty verbal, but it's always super sweaty because this room doesn't have AC. *laughs* - Kenzie & Evan (she/her & he/him)
Solo intimacy is just as important as the intimacy you share with the other people in your life. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and honest with your friends, families, lovers, and partners, as well as yourself, can help you discover new forms of intimacy that might just change your life forever.